What is a "Big"?
A "Big" is an adult who volunteers as a Big Brother or Big Sister to a "Little" or a child. The role of a "Big" is first and foremost a caring friend to a child, or "Little."
What is the purpose of a Big's involvement with a child?
It's about having fun together! Bigs are adult volunteers who are willing to share little moments of their lives with a child (Littles). We encourage Bigs to look at what they like to do and determine how to include a Little. Sometimes that means cleaning out a garage together, walking in the woods, going to a museum, playing a game or cooking a pizza and watching a video. There's a lot of laughing, a lot of talking, and a lot of listening!
For the Little, the normal things two friends do together translates to feeling better about him or herself because someone is their friend. Littles learn new skills and have a chance to try new things. They meet new people and have new experiences. They learn what being a healthy, contributing member of the community is all about. As the Big, you will teach that; not by anything special you do, just by being there.br>
What is expected of volunteers?
- Contact is recommended about 4-6 hours per month.
- To maintain confidentially and abide by the ground rules of the program.
- To maintain contact with the Big Brothers Big Sisters Match Support Specialists.
- To act in the best interest of the child.
- To be at least 16 years old, have reliable transportation, and automobile insurance.
Is there a cost?
There is no cost to be involved in the program. We urge you to find low cost and free, or no cost activities to participate in throughout the area. However, if the match does an activity that costs money, generally the Big pays the way. The agency also provides activities for matches approximately once a month.
What would my relationship with the Little's sibling(s) and parent(s) be?
The Little's parent/guardian has absolute say in what activities their child participates in. So, check with the parent about days, times and activities before you make plans with the Little. Other than that, your relationship with the parent is to be kind and friendly when you to pick up the Little and return them home. If the parent asks you for favors, just explain, "I'm sorry, Big Brothers Big Sisters doesn't allow me to do that."
What if the Little and I don't get along?
We do everything we can to match you with a Little that you will get along with and share common interests. We know it will take time for the two of you to get comfortable with each other and we are here to help you work through any rough spots throughout the life of your match.
What about discipline?
You are not responsible for the Little's behavior outside the match. That is the parent's job. When the Little is with you, though, you have a right to expect behavior that is appropriate to the situation and that makes you comfortable. Tell the Little what you expect in advance. If the Little's behavior doesn't improve, simply end the activities and take them home. Be sure to speak to their guardian and contact your Match Support Specialist if necessary.
